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Why are we so selfish?

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After losing touch with a friend for a few years, I learn just how selfish I was with my time. Stop by and read the full story!

Some of you may be shocked at my question, and that’s ok. Perhaps you don’t think you have a selfish bone in your body. Or, maybe you know you’re selfish.

I don’t know about you but I sure can be selfish. Maybe the title of this post should have been why am I so selfish? Case in point – keep reading.

Last week I got a call from a dear friend that I’d lost touch with. I first met her years ago when I was doing nails at a salon. In fact, she was probably one of my very first clients. I continued to do her nails for years and stopped doing them a couple years ago when she moved to an assisted living facility that had a nail tech – she’s in her mid-80’s.

When she first moved into the assisted living facility I went to visit her. She was excited to be there and to tell me about her new digs!

I left with intentions to call her for another visit. I even added a note to my “to-do” list so that I would remember to call her, but I kept putting it off and moving it to future dates. Finally I was disgusted with myself that I’d waited so long to call/visit that I removed it from my “to-do” list.

When she called last week she left a message letting me know that she was in rehab at a new facility. At the end of her message she said, “This is Miss X, do you remember me?” Oh how my heart broke at my selfishness in not keeping up with her.

I called her back and we set up a time for me to come. She asked if I still did nails. And, even though I don’t do nails anymore I told her I would do hers. She was so excited that I came to visit her, and ecstatic to have her nails done.

While I was there I learned that her daughter that lives in town doesn’t come to see her very often because she has Lupus; it’s all she can do to go to work every day.

Going to visit her didn’t take a huge chunk of time out of my day. It was fun to visit with her and catch up. But it was even more fun to see the difference it made in her spirit when I left – it was a night and day difference. I know she enjoyed the company, but there’s just something about having your nails done that makes you feel so much better. Wouldn’t you agree?

If something as small as visiting a friend or doing their nails can change the course of their day, why don’t we do it more? Why are we/am I so selfish?

The last thing I want to do is leave you with a guilt trip – that’s not my intention at all. But I share this story so that we can all learn a lesson from my selfishness. What is God calling you to do that you’re putting off? You never know, doing something for someone else may not only brighten their day but yours too. It did for me!

Thrifty T

6 Comments

  1. Jim Genet
    Jim Genet05-22-2013

    Powerful story Tshanina. Love your blog and want to commend you on stepping out and starting something! Would love to hear your story sometime.

    • ThriftyT
      ThriftyT05-23-2013

      Thanks Jim! I appreciate your kind words and you stopping by!

  2. Ashley
    Ashley03-05-2014

    You, are such an amazing woman! And, have you been reading my mind?? I have been struggling with this (by myself and by others) and I’m glad I’m not the only one willing to put it out there to make people think :)
    Thank you so much for what you do & the witness you are!!

    • Tshanina Peterson
      Tshanina Peterson03-06-2014

      You’re so very kind Ashley – thank you!

      My thought is, why not share so that others can learn from my mistakes/lessons!

  3. Brandi H.
    Brandi H.03-31-2014

    Great post, Tshanina! I read a similar type story in Guideposts once and even ripped it out to have a daily ‘clue-in’ that my time is not my own – but ever in service to God’s kingdom. I lost that paper in our recent move. Thanks for the reminder – even though I have left friends behind, I will make time to call and chat because I know it brightens their day and it definitely brightens mine!! :-)

    • Tshanina Peterson
      Tshanina Peterson04-01-2014

      Thank you Brandi! We all need this reminder because we really can make a difference in the lives of others.

      I appreciate you stopping by and joining the conversation!

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