Saying I love you can be hard and awkward. If you have a hard time saying I love you know that these three simple words can make a huge impact on the lives of others. Let me show you how to easily step out of your comfort zone and begin saying I love you.

woman looking at the sunset with her hands shaped in a heart in front of the sun

Why do I have a hard time saying I love you?

  • You didn’t hear the words I love you growing up. It was normal for your parents to tuck you into bed at night without saying I love you. When you headed off to college or on your own, you knew your parents loved you, even though they didn’t tell you very often.
  • You’re afraid of being hurt or rejected. It’s safer to keep your feelings inside because you’ve decided that if you tell someone you love them first, there’s a chance that they won’t say it back.
  • You feel like no one could love you. Self-esteem and insecurity is something you struggle with which makes it hard for you to believe that someone could genuinely love you.

Let’s face it, there are a ton of reasons why you have a hard time saying I love you! But no matter the reason you likely feel a nudging in your heart to learn how to say I love you to those around you. (You wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t.)

It’s time to move past analyzing why you have a hard time saying I love you and take action.

Someone in your life needs to know that you love them. And not just know it, they need to hear you speak the words!

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Try this if you have a hard time saying I love you.

It’s time to be bold and brave and just start, friend!

The hardest part of doing something new is taking that very first step.

Yes, It will be hard and awkward. But it won’t get any easier unless and until you start.

I promise that once you start you will be so proud of yourself.

5 easy ways to start saying I love you!

Here are some easy and genuine ways to start saying those three important words:

1. When you’re giving a hug, tell them you love them.

2. During a challenging or stressful time, offer reassurance by saying, “No matter what happens, I want you to know that I love you and I’m here for you.”

3. When you’re laughing or enjoying a special experience say, “I love being with you,” and let the words flow naturally.

4. As you’re waving goodbye after a wonderful visit, tell them you love them.

5. When giving a compliment say “I love the way you [insert a specific quality], it’s one of the reasons I care about you so much.”

We all want to be loved, and no matter our age we all need to hear the words I love you!

Who do you need to say I love you to today?


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